Gaining Access to a Man's Heart...or How to Turn Your Man's Heart

Hello....

If you heard it once, you've heard it a thousand times-the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Delilah in the Bible understood this lesson as well. Over and over she tried to solve the riddle of Sampson's source of strength, without my success. One of her strategies the bible says is that "she tormented him with her nagging day after day until he was sick to death of it. Finally Sampson shared his secret with her." Her story is found in Judges 16:16-17.

In essence she used her strength, against his weakness. In other words, she the poor man down.

Is this your story too, I hope not!

However, as women of God, our mission should not solely focus on feeding him physical food, but as well feed him spiritual food.

There are 4 key ways this can be achieved (more can be added)....look below:

1. Respect him
2. Ego-feed his
3 Make him feel loved (ex. hugs)
4. Focus on him

Delilah did none of these things. Did she?

Now of course, I can't guarantee these four things will cause a change to occur in him overnight, but it will give you a new and better perspective on who you are and what you expect out of the relationship. Moreover, God will be pleased that you didn't' stoop to trickery and deceit in betraying the trust of your man.

God Bless,
Sylvia Joyner

Sometimes, I Feel Lonely....

Dear Woman of God,

Have you ever felt alone or lonely...even-though you were in a room with other people, or even enjoying a round of laughs with your friends and family...well it is possible to be in two places at the same time.

I call those times in my own life, places of displacement and disconnection. Even in those times of emotional displacement and disconnect there is still a lesson we can learn about ourselves. All down times are not necessarily negative. They can become an essential part of learning who we are and why we are feeling lonely.

One of the things I have learned is that each of us can view our lives as a story being read. One of the skills essential to any story after reading it is comprehension of what one has read.  In other words, the who, what, where, when and how, or why of what is going on in my story.

Can you analyze the who, what, where, when and how or why in your story you are  feeling disconnected from family and friends and from yourself? If you are successful in retelling the story, then you are on your way to utilizing those times as a way to help you grow rather than to stunt your growth.

God's Best,
Sylvia Joyner